I’ll forever have two children. I never imagined how hard it would be to be asked the question “how many children do you have?” It’s human Nature, it’s what we do, it’s how we communicate. As moms, as strangers, as parents, it’s how we relate to one another. You see when this question comes up for me it’s never a straight answer. It always leads to more questions, more insight to why you physically see only one child. It’s at this moment in what should be a normal conversation, that my horrific reality comes crashing in. Suddenly that stranger is sorry or uncomfortable for bringing it up, while I am happy that they asked. Grief is so shunned in our world that often others want to quiet it or apologize for “bringing it up.”

Don’t ever apologize because I assure you that any parent who has lost a child is thrilled to say their child’s name and tell you all about them. Thank you to all of you who have asked and continue to speak his name💛